Who are you?

I’ve never colored inside the lines. I’ve always challenged “the rules” set by other people. I’ve never just believed everything that was told to me. I’ve always listened, but not always followed. I have been told not to attempt to try numerous things, but have always done them anyway. It has always taken me more than one try to achieve the goals I have wanted to obtain, but they have never been small goals. I have not taken a lot of advice I should have because I needed to learn the lessons on my own. I have loved and lost with pain at times, but never with regrets. I have sacraficed things from myself for others in more need that I when I was told not to care. I have spoken up when I was told to shut up. I have moved forward when it would have been easier to stand still and stay where I was. I have hurt people I love and punished myself for their pain. I have at times wanted to raise the white flag in defeat, but I never have. I have always climbed back up the cliff with my finger nails. I am me and I need to never forget that. Who are you?


Haters- I don’t have them

I see a lot of people posting about “Haters”….”Don’t worry about Haters- they are just unhappy people”; I think would sum it up. I guess this relates to my previous post. I don’t have “Haters”, because I haven’t acknowledged that negative behavior towards me in over four years now. I just don’t care… And I think Facebook has provided me with a great social experiment. I used to make fun of people on FB. Who had the time? Nonsense… Ha..look at me now. In the beginning I friended EVERYONE I knew, met, worked with, admired. As time went on my love of FB increased. I found I Loved writing and using it as my on line journal. I put most everything on there that I would have written in my journal. Why not? This is who I am. I offended LOTS…I scared my mother and close friends:”Vanessa! Why are you posting that?”….Why not? This is me…. And you know what? It weeded out the negativity, the haters…if people didn’t like me they could just defriend me…. And I am totally fine with that. No hard feelings. When I see who likes or comments on my posts I smile. I feel a connection with them. They get me. I put a smile on their face, made them laugh, or made them think, or even made them mad, but we can discuss or agree to disagree. Challenge me….I love to ponder my views. So, my post yesterday: I am my worst enemy. I am my own hater. Other haters don’t even come to mind. I do crave certain people’s approval and that is something I need to work on, but they aren’t haters…. More just on the fence:) We can choose to see haters and negativity or we can choose not to. Don’t even worry about “Haters going to hate”…..they aren’t even there.