It’s not about you…. I don’t care that you are crying…. It’s not about you…… He was not your father. He was not you. It’s not about you

Oh I feel so sorry for you.

You are shedding tears for someone you never knew.

Did you spend quiet hours in the dark with him when the pain was trapped in his head?

Did you ask him how he was doing or did you just want the funny man to make you smile?

Who made him smile when he was alone and off the stage?

Who made him smile when he was crying out in pain?

Just because you didn’t see it, it doesn’t mean it wasn’t there.

You are so sad? You are in pain? You have lost an imaginary mentor in your head? You never knew him.

What about someone you actually know? The neighbor in your building? The homeless person on your street? The veteran that just got back from war? The mother that just lost a child? You KNOW there is something that pains them.  Do you even try to talk to them?

“GO GET HELP!!” It is so easy to say.

“YOU HAVE EVERYTHING” is an easy way to lay blame.


“YOU WERE SO ADMIRED”…. but not admired by yourself.

“YOU ARE SO SELFISH. YOU LEFT BEHIND YOUR KIDS”….I can’t help them. I can’t help myself. I am a burden.

Shed tears for Mr. Williams.  Shed tears for his family. Shed tears for all the people being killed or killing themselves in the world today.  DON’T shed tears for yourself……. RIGHT NOW.. Its not about you……..


About Vanessa Bednar

I am an actor, a writer, a producer, a mom, an adventurer.

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